Many times in both my personal and professional life I have encountered people who focus much of their thoughts and energy on what has happened to them in past, rather than dealing with what is happening now, or better yet focusing on what could happen in the future. Not all, but many of these people tend to be complainers, or even whiners. They see the glass half empty, instead of half full. They experience problems where others have learning experiences. They are reactive instead of proactive. In fact, I coined a phrase to describe these people. I call them: “oh woe is me.”
Perhaps you’ve dealt with some of these people as well. They are fairly easy to identify because regardless of the topic of conversation, they try to switch the focus to something they perceive as bad that happened to them in the past. Reliving the past, especially when it is less than favorable gives them a sense of security or some other misplaced feelings. Read the rest of this entry »
